When you have an important event to attend there are seven great ways to make sure you perform at your very best. These tips are relevant for social events and business meetings.
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1. Decide what you want to say before the event. Review it in your mind to make sure it sounds okay. Keep rehearsing it until you can say it with conviction and confidence.
2. Consider your potential listeners. Who will you be talking to and which topics of conversation will be welcome? You need to make sure your message matches your audience.
3. Be yourself. The worst mistake is to pretend you are something you are not. People will see through you and distrust everything you say. Even if you communicate clearly and with confidence.
4. Never expect things to work out perfectly. Be ready to deal with problems by deciding in advance what you will do. What will you do if people ignore your input? Now is the time to decide and not later on in the heat of the moment.
5. Be flexible in your approach. Different people need to be treated differently. Pay very close attention to how people respond to what you say and keep adjusting your approach until you have a good rapport with your listener.
6. Make the other person the focus of your attention and let him lead the conversation in the early stages. Let that person steer the conversation onto topics that are of interest to him.
7. Anticipate what could go wrong. Then do what you can to make sure those scenarios do not occur. Adequate planning is the key to performing at your best in the moment.
Of course you need to also understand the importance of low stress communication...
After all, life is all about choices. And so is the way you communicate. You can fill your days with frustrating high stress communication or you can have days of low stress effective communication with your peers.
There are three great ways to ensure low stress communication:
1. Recognize Positive Intentions
When someone you are talking to is unkind, negative or downright rude, it is easy to get annoyed, angry and even aggressive.
However this will just make the situation worse and even faster than you can imagine.
There is a better way. Instead, look for the positive intention of the person you are talking to. Ask yourself -- what is the positive intention behind this behavior?
If the person you are talking to is angry, the positive intention is to express some hurt or frustration. What is important is looking for a positive -- not to get the correct answer.
When you assume the person has a positive message hidden underneath the negative exterior, you will have more compassion and patience and you will not feel so stressed dealing with the individual.
2. Choose Your Own Emotional State
Why is it important to be able to manage your emotional state? Because it is an essential life skill.
Unless you are in charge of how you feel, your ability to communicate effectively will always be limited and dependent on other people.
When you are in a potentially stressful situation and everyone around you is losing their cool, this does not mean you have to join them! You will be able to contribute a lot more if you remain calm and centered.
Staying calm and resourceful is a choice you can make. Unfortunately, it is all too easy to be a sheep and simply follow the crowd. Nobody says you have to be a sheep!
Instead make a point of keeping yourself in a resourceful state.
3. Step Outside The Situation
Whenever I am in a highly charged situation, I will often step outside the situation -- in my mind. This helps to defuse the event for me.
You can do this too. Simply imagine that you are at the other end of the room watching the interaction between you and the other person or people.
It is as if you are a neutral observer with no emotional involvement in the discussion at hand.
When you do this, you will think of ideas to handle the situation better and you will also feel less bothered by the stress of the other people.
This is one technique you need to play with first in easy everyday conversations. Once you get familiar with it, you will find it easy to mentally step outside the event while still participating with the people in front of you.
Stress or relaxation which do you prefer?
If you want to improve your professional and social standing, learn to communicate efficiently and in a positive manner. You will notice a dramatic difference in the way other people perceive you if you demonstrate self-confidence and project a friendly, informed image.